Appropriately Freaked Out

better late than never

I guess because of my dream the night before, I was walking around in a daze- like I was immanently getting Ariana. And then.......FEAR struck right in the gut. What if I screw this up irrevocably. And, don't tell me it can't happen....yep it sure can. I have a 2.5 year old, 10 and 13 year old. How can I make sure she gets all the attention and experiences she needs to attach and assimilate into our family and not create issues and mess Aidan up at the same time? How can I make sure they both come through this liking each other and whole spiritually? Corbin and Collin will be fine. They are both older and very confident. I know they need our attention, but for very different reasons. Corbin needs guidance as a teenager. He needs limits and freedom. He needs help preparing for and facing the issues teens have today. He will be an 8th grader and he will be bidding farewell to the only school he has ever known. He will let go of his childhood and have to face seeing all his friends spread across Tampa to varying schools. I am sure it will be a year of anticipation, fear and celebration. But, IDS has prepared him. Collin is hitting 5th grade. That is a very fun and carefree year for us. It has lots of homework and they certainly become more independent, but school has never been an issue for Collin. I look forward to sharing all the special moments that come from being king of the hill and living in our school's penthouse. But, I am terrified I don't know enough about attachment for Ariana. I took the ALP course on attachment. Read the book our agency sent. I have read posts and inquired for advice. But, now I am on amazon ordering all kinds of resources. If anyone has suggestions I am begging for everything you would advise.